Caring for someone with dementia is undoubtedly challenging, especially if you are a family member providing care alongside other life responsibilities. As a caregiver, you may be feeling the effects of carer burnout and considering what respite care options are available to you and your loved one. While it can feel overwhelming to begin the process of looking into dementia-specific respite care, there are many benefits to this arrangement for both of you. Here, we are examining how dementia respite care works, how it differs from other types of respite care, any additional aspects of care you should consider when planning respite care for dementia or Alzheimer’s patients, and whether or not respite is free for dementia carers.At Home Instead, our aim is to help people age positively and in place by bringing expert care to their home. For nearly 20 years, we have been providing the highest standard of care, and creating industry-leading training programmes for our Care Professionals that are accredited by nursing and medical professionals. Today, we are the world’s largest global home care network, supporting over 100,000 older adults with personalised, tailored care at home. Whatever questions you have about respite care for people with dementia, we can help.
Dementia respite care is a type of temporary care given to someone with dementia, in order to relieve their regular caregiver of duties for a period of time. While respite care is usually easy to arrange for family caregivers, a certain type of specialised support is often needed in the case of people living with dementia. This is because their care typically involves medication and an understanding of their cognitive abilities and mental health in order to avoid disrupting their regular routine. It is normal for caregivers to feel reluctant to take a break from their usual duties because their loved one will become anxious, upset or even distraught at their absence and the presence of a stranger. However, respite care is equally as important for carers of those with dementia as it is for any other type of carer. Just like other carers, those looking after a person with dementia will require time off to do things like maintain their home life, run errands, go on holiday, meet friends, and more. Respite care can benefit the person with dementia (more on this below), but moreover it benefits the caregiver by giving them a break if they are struggling to cope with care needs as their loved one’s condition advances – this helps boost their physical and mental health. Caregiver burnout is not just an inconvenience, it is a recognised state of physical, emotional and mental exhaustion commonly experienced by both professional carers and family caregivers, so it is important to recognise when it is time to seek dementia respite care for your loved one and for yourself. You may find our guide on this useful: Carer’s Burnout: Knowing You Need Respite
Typical respite care can often be easily arranged as the person receiving care can understand the need for respite, voice any concerns they have so you can alleviate them, and can enjoy the change of pace or alternative activities offered to them by a respite carer. On the other hand, for those with dementia respite care can be more difficult to arrange if the person requiring care does not understand why their regular carer needs a break, becomes anxious and upset at the thought of change, or feels scared of the new face in their home during the respite period. For these reasons, specialised dementia care can help to ensure the appropriately trained carers are present, and the transition to a new caregiver is as seamless and compassionate as possible for them. Dementia respite care professionals have an understanding of the different stages of dementia, meaning they can be more vigilant if the person tends to wander off, experiences sundowning, or requires consistency with specific routines.Dementia respite care providers undergo specialised training in understanding and managing the unique challenges associated with dementia. They are trained to handle behaviours such as agitation, wandering and confusion, which are common among people with dementia. They can also provide structured activities tailored to the cognitive abilities and interests of the individual. Ultimately, dementia respite carers aim to enhance the wellbeing of both the person with dementia and their caregiver by covering the gap in care, while also alleviating any change and confusion for the older person as much as possible.
As above, dementia care is more specialised than regular respite care, and there are several types available. These include:
Although any of the above options can be considered for your loved one (based on your knowledge of how they would respond to each), due to the confusion and change that moving to a new place can cause for some people with dementia, many families decide to arrange respite care at home for their loved one to alleviate some of the stress involved.
There are some other things to consider when arranging dementia respite care:
Respite care offers many invaluable benefits, both for the person living with dementia and for their families and caregivers.
For caregivers, the benefits of respite care may include:
There are few disadvantages to dementia respite care, as this is considered a necessary service for anyone caring for a loved one with dementia on a regular basis. The person with dementia may be negatively impacted by the arrangement the most, as the transition to a new routine or environment could cause confusion and anxiety, leading to increased agitation or distress. They may resist change, which can make respite care more difficult for the caregiver who is trying to take a break. For caregivers, the guilt or worry about leaving their loved ones in unfamiliar surroundings or with a stranger could impact the enjoyment of their break, potentially undermining the intended respite benefits. Although it is normal to worry that your loved one is upset or confused by your absence, you should try to fully enjoy your time away if you can, safe in the knowledge that they are being properly cared for. For both parties, accessing high-quality dementia respite care may pose financial challenges or availability issues, so this can sometimes be a disadvantage too.
Your loved one’s eligibility for dementia respite care will depend on their needs and financial situation. If you are worried about being able to afford respite care (or that your loved one cannot afford this), take a look at the options for financial assistance or subsidised care depending on your situation. You may find more helpful information in our guide: Who Pays For Respite Care?
To find out if you are eligible to receive dementia respite care, you should start by reaching out to your local council to organise a Care Needs Assessment if you haven’t already, and ask about the available respite options and financial support for your loved one. You may find more useful information in our articles: How Much Does Respite Care Cost?
If you haven’t already, you should also speak to them about receiving Carer’s Allowance, which could provide you with a weekly payment if you are caring for a loved one for at least 35 hours per week. Check the GOV.UK website for more information to see if you qualify.
If you are looking after a loved one with dementia and you believe you need to arrange respite care – whether to manage symptoms of burnout, attend an important event, go on holiday, or something else – it can be hard to let go when you have managed your loved one’s care for so long. Deciding to find respite care can be a difficult decision to make, but once you have made it, it is relatively easy to organise provided there are dementia care specialists available in your area.
Deciding to enlist the help of a dementia respite carer can feel overwhelming, but at Home Instead we can help to support you in setting up the best possible respite care arrangement that works for both you and your loved one. If you have any questions about how this might work, please feel free to reach out to the Home Instead team. Our Care Professionals are highly trained to deliver specialised dementia respite care, so no matter what you need, we can provide a tailored service that suits you.
Home Instead is an award-winning home care provider and part of a worldwide organisation devoted to providing the highest-quality relationship-led care for older people in their own homes. Arranging care for yourself or your loved one shouldn’t be stressful, so whatever questions you would like answered, feel free to reach out to the Home Instead team to discuss your needs.
Tim Howell , Learning and Development Partner
With a professional background that spans healthcare, aviation, and specialized training, I bring a wealth of experience to the field of dementia care. As a former Registered Nurse with expertise in Emergency and Children’s Medical care, I transitioned to a 20-year career in aviation, serving as a Cabin Director and Base Cabin Crew Manager. In these roles, I led recruitment, training, retention, and leadership initiatives for cabin crew teams across the UK.<br /> <br /> For the past 16 years, I have been dedicated to the care sector, progressing from Care Professional to Care Manager, and later assuming roles such as Specialist Training Manager. Currently, as a Learning and Development Partner at Home Instead’s National Office, I develop and review training programs, collaborate with external organizations like the Alzheimer’s Society, and manage various impactful projects.<br /> <br /> My passion for dementia care has guided much of my work, from engaging with advanced dementia support initiatives, such as those offered by the End of Life Partnership, to staying informed through events like the annual Dementia Summit. These efforts reflect my deep commitment to enhancing the care and quality of life for individuals living with dementia