Having the Care Conversation
We know from our past research that many people don't have the 'care conversation' until they are already in the emergency situation. Being prepared offer's many benefits.
Having the Care Conversation
From our research conducted in 2021, we know that the majority of families don’t have the
‘care conversation’ until they are already in an emergency situation. Care then often becomes rushed and stressful, which is not ideal when finding a care service that needs to be personalised and right for your loved one and their family.
Our research found that:
- 81% admit that they are reluctant to have a conversation with their
parents about possible care options, despite 33% being concerned about
Mum or Dad’s physical health. - Out of those who haven’t had the Care Conversation, 25% put this
down to delaying it until it’s relevant, while 20% say they find it too
uncomfortable, and 19% don’t know where to begin. - 86% would rather see their parents spend their final years at home
rather than a care home.
Having the care conversation before care is needed can make the process smooth and stress-free, with everyone on board with a plan before care is even needed. We understand the reluctance to start the conversation over care for our elderly relatives, and that’s why we are trying to make it easier and less stressful for all those involved.
Tips for the Care Conversation
Start Early
If your parents are over 70, begin by observing their day and any challenges they may face. By introducing the idea of care before it becomes an immediate necessity you can help make the conversation less awkward later on. Address potential concerns such as vision issues or difficulties driving early to create a more comfortable environment for discussion. A proactive approach ensures that care is introduced gradually, helping to preserve independence while making for a smooth transition.
Talk It Out
Have open dialogue about your observations while focusing on your loved ones wishes. It’s important that they feel heard and have the opportunity to share their thoughts and preferences. By listening to any concerns they have and involving them in the decision-making process the conversations becomes respectful and productive. talking it out can help to find solutions that work for them.
Think About How You Talk
Approach these conversations with respect and empathy, and treat your loved one as an equal, using a tone you would appreciate if the roles were reversed.
Maximise Independence
Look for solutions that support their autonomy. If they need assistance at home, consider options such as Home Care that allow them to continue engaging in activities they love, like cooking.
Be Aware of Changes
Monitor any shifts in behaviour or living conditions, especially after significant life events. If loneliness becomes a concern, explore options for regular companionship to enhance their social engagement.
Home Instead Newcastle Upon Tyne are always on hand to assist with questions, information and support while having the Care Conversation. You can also register your interested long before care is needed. We are happy to go over these options with you, just give us a call on 0191 213 5505 between Monday-Friday, 9am-5pm, and our friendly team will be happy to help.
